I am 31 weeks pregnant, my due date is 5th October and according to my iPhone I have 62 days left to my due date – that sounds organised doesn’t it? But I am so not organised. So not ready. Getting ready for baby number two is what I am SUPPOSED to be doing, but I actually, weirdly don’t really know where to start. I feel so not ready that today it actually scared me!
What little time I have when my 2 year old is sleeping is filled with project managing house renovations, trying to work out how to prepare my toddler for the imminent arrival, getting the Christmas 2009 collection for Dandelion Lounge finalised and general anxiety about “hitting reset” and rewinding to where we were two and a bit years ago being responsible for a newborn life. Add my bestest little guy, H, into that equation and I can’t see how life will add up from October onwards. Life at Lancaster Mews since H arrived has revolved around him and his routine, so who’s routine is going to be followed when there are two, very different routines, needs and agenda’s? How the devil do you prepare for and do that? Answers on a postcard/comment box please!
So to my getting ready list … OK so I have “the stuff” – the moses basket, the cot, car seat etc. I have some experience – I know which way round a nappy goes, that babes cry and eventually I’ll start to understand why and to make sure the frill isn’t tucked in to the inner liner on nappies to help avoid busting nappies (one of my top tips for first time mums that one!). But this time getting ready isn’t about stuff or just about me and Mr L its about H. Its a teeny bit about delivery and a lot about making it right and positive for my toddler H. The latter I really don’t know where to start with.
I know me, H and Mr L all survived labour & delivery. I know it was a long 36 hours. I know gas & air doesn’t start to kick in until inhale number 10 so I know to start just before the contraction begins (another top tip!) I know I couldn’t have loved anyone more than the anaesthetist who gave me my epidural after 28hours and that in the end it was all worth it, but that is about it. I have successfully blanked everything else from my brain. I also know that I wrote in my diary on the day I gave birth …*Remember c-section planned next time* – I left myself a message – surely I did this for a reason?!
First time round Mr L and I spent 2 hours a week for 9 weeks attending NCT classes, learning all about the choices and options. As yet I have yet to pick up a pregnancy book. I have loads and they are all still in the loft – first time around I knew exactly the size of my foetus, embryo, baby throughout my 40 weeks in relation to various, generally edible items, from coffee beans, to plums, to apples to grapefruit etc. This time I have to check my iPhone between nursery runs, toddler classes, play dates, phone calls, work, home and the odd occasional splash of a social life!
Last time labour started and I went to hospital around 1am, we can’t just go to hospital with a toddler in the house! I really don’t want to be seen by, or subject my parents to, having to see me in labour. So I am hoping that I will go into labour on either a Monday, Tuesday or Thursday morning between (9am & 1pm) while H is at nursery. That way Mr L can simply call the Grandparents to pick him up, we simply shimmy off to the hospital when we’re ready, welcome baby number two and return home with new babe in arms to little H who’s had a fabulous day and possibly overnight sleepover with his Grandparents. Is that a plan? No it clearly isn’t but that is all I’ve got right now, so if you’re listening to me reviewing this post out loud baby number two – Monday, Tuesday or Thursday morning work for us, and that includes you – OK? Please? OMG I am begging my unborn child to do things, next I’ll be attempting bribery with colostrum, the power has already shifted, she already holds all the cards!
Whilst pregnant in 2007 I turned my office into H’s nursery which is to be “baby number two’s” nursery – choose baby name is on the to do list! Now H is being promoted to what was, until a few weeks ago, our guest room and I am just putting the finishing touches to his big boys bedroom with his own “big bed”! I plan to move him from nursery to bedroom and from cot to bed hopefully next week (blackout blinds & John Lewis permitting!) Also at 27 months want to tackle potty training, that may afford me a few nappy free weeks before I return to 12 a day – but wondering if I have left it too close to a new sibling arriving? Had planned to start on Thursday but now H has come down with a virus & it feels unfair to try to start if he’s under the weather, sigh! Definitely one that needs more thought!
Well you know what I feel better just having blogged this out, I’m sure all these things will happen, in their own time and if they don’t they don’t … but deep down, well not that deep at all really, I am a planner and I would them all to be done, quickly, easily and preferably by now!
Anyway I am signing off for another restless, uncomfortable, dare I say it “bumpy” night ahead! More to come on the ever evolving “to do”, “to get”, “to order” lists I create as I count down the … 62, nearly 61 days to baby number two … all advice, warnings, tales & recommendations received with mucho thanks!