A freelance friend is putting together a piece for The Guardian Family section gathering together the sorts of practical and emotional pearls of wisdom for first time mums the sort of nuggets that you can’t find in books and you only discover when you’ve had a child. The inside track if you like, the amazingly useful insider bits of advice that can really help, and also the stuff that makes you laugh and other mums nod knowingly as well!
These pearls could include:
- The anecdotal no-holds barred things that only mums know (even those that fly against conventional advice)
- The thing you wish you’d known before you gave birth/became a mum
- The thing “they don’t tell you”, or that are glossed over in books etc/conversely the things that are exaggerated?
- The answers to questions that perhaps you felt you should be asking (there are a few listed below….)
- The handiest, most invaulable thing that someone told you
- Best practical tip
- The most surprising thing about becoming a mum
If you have thoughts, answers or have written a post or posts touching on any or all of these elements (I’m not sure I write about much else!) please comment and include any relevant links in the comments below – serious, humorous, wry, any flavour is good! If you’d rather contact her directly drop me an email at email@example.com and I will send you her email address with pleasure.
Names can be changed and even just a one liner or a tweet is useful. You may have something that leaps to mind – but if you need inspiration then here are some questions from my friend that may spark an ‘oh *yes*, I remember wondering about that…” moment….., she is yet to have kids
- How painful IS birth. No *really*.
- What do you DO with your newborn baby all day?
- What’s the best way to avoid losing your marbles with lack of sleep/adult company etc?
- Can you breastfeed while technically asleep? Like a cowboy sleeping upright with his eyes open etc?
- And on that vein, is there any way to have a drink while breastfeeding?
- What will seem like a good idea initially – and what I will quickly realise is a total nightmare?
- Am I really going to be forgetting my name and putting the loo roll in the fridge for a few months after birth?
- Does a gulf open up between you and your child-free friends? How does it change your relationships?
- Am I going to surprise myself – and if so, how? (my capacity to not sleep, the depth of emotion, the complete absorption with my baby, my ability to puree things, my time management skills etc?)
- What won’t I care about half as much, after I’ve given birth/am a mum?
A bath with my favourite bath oil – my choice for bathtime is Lime, Basil & Mandarin by Jo Malone
Its Sunday night the children are asleep, the bath is run, hot & got my name on it! Until next week folks!
The situation in Haiti is terrible to watch, the images too tragic to see. So I don’t watch. I can’t watch. But I can’t ignore it either. The most constructive way to help from overseas is to donate to support the charity efforts which in already financially challenging times can be difficult, but please if you can, donate whatever you can afford. Simply click this link and donate to Bloggers for Haiti
The link takes you through to the JustGiving website which is raising money for Shelter boxes going to Haiti, you can read full details on the JustGiving page Bloggers for Haiti aimed to raise enough for one box costing £490 when I left my donation funds has been raised for seven boxes, the cumulative total of many donating what they can afford which is just AMAZING. Clearly with an estimated 1.5 million homeless the more that can be sent the better to help provide shelter and survival equipment to victims of the disaster.
Bloggers are working together to help raise funds for the relief effort, if you can help spread the word then please do.
You can find out more and make a donation here.
It’s “quiet time” at Lancaster Towers between 1pm & 3pm. Since Lil’ H started to need his afternoon nap less & less I’ve introduced “quiet time” to allow him to rest & renergise. This consists of a makeshift bed on the sofa, his blanket & a bit of Disney babysitting usually Toy Story 1 or 2 or Finding Nemo. Sometimes still quiet time becomes naptime too. It’s a nice part of the day for me as Baby G is usually asleep too so I get to drop down a gear on the mummy child caring & raising duties.
Today I arranged the tulips I bought myself and it dawned on me how I always like to have fresh flowers, how I enjoy choosing them, arranging them & simply enjoy them being in my home. Today I remembered that fresh flowers are a simple pleasure & I am really enjoying my Tulips, one of my favourite spring flowers. What are your favourite flowers? Brighten your day & treat yourself.
At Lancaster Towers this week I am dieting, as I was last week, I started on 2nd January and this baby weight has its days numbered! I have enjoyed eating creamy mushrooms and I thought I would share the recipe, the word recipe is an overstatement by the way, with my #twiet buddies. Continuing through the family Lil’ H has thoroughly enjoyed making and eating Annabel Karmel’s “Bang Bang Chicken” and Baby G has been chuffed to bits with Aptimel, 6floz, 6 x per day!
Creamy mushrooms (serves 1)
Simmer 200g sliced mushrooms in a non-stick frying pan with 6tbspn of hot vegetable stock for 4-5 mins, until the liquid has almost evaporated. Stir in 40g of low fat soft cheese, Philadelphia Light in this house. Heat through for a couple of minutes. Serve on toast for breakfast or mix into 60g cooked pasta with steamed veg and chopped lean ham or chicken for lunch.
Bang Bang Chicken
1 boneless chicken breast
skinned 3 slices wholewheat bread
1 tablespoon grated Parmesan cheese (optional)
1 tablespoon chopped parsley (optional)
2 tablespoon plain flour
1 egg, beaten
Directions: Cover the chicken with waxed paper and flatten with a mallet or rolling pin, then cut breast lengthwise into approximately 4-6 strips. Make bread crumbs from the slices of bread in a food processsor. If you are using the parmesan and parsley, mix these together with the bread crumbs in a bowl. I use parmesan because I always have it in and don’t use Parsley because I never have it in ! Dip the chicken into the flour, then into the egg, and finally into the bread crumbs. I make this recipe in big batches and freeze the “Bang Bang Fingers” in foil at this point. To cook (if frozen defrost thoroughly first) fry in oil for 3-4 minutes each side until golden on the outside and cooked through. Drain well on paper towels and then serve.